One considerable question that I'm afraid I'll have to raise is the question of whether Pao's simply reading too much in people's words, and if that is on purpose. As far as I could see, Ocyari didn't even say anything regarding motives. To her, it just appears Pao and Percifeer are bickering; it's not like she can really tell much more than that.
Reralae, don't be afraid to bring up any points, at least to me. I don't take them personally.
Does it seem like Pao has a chip on his shoulder? It should.
Bickering? Pao? No. He's reacting, based on past experience. His history can be learned in play and will enlighten all, but for now, they only know what they see.
Not pretty, maybe, but put yourself in his position:
Return to help, sent to find others. A party ensues for some reason and THEN he's told why he's here. Minutes later he's the target of wild accusations about what he can and can't do, delaying progress, assuming too much, and generally being a butthead.
Yeah, he's angry. If y'all wanna learn about him, interact with him, don't just judge.